Thomas Merton writes in New Man that
One of the keys to real religious experience is the shattering realization that no matter how hateful we are to ourselves, we are not hateful to God. This realization helps us to understand the difference between our love and His. Our love is a need. His a gift. We need to see good in ourselves in order to love ourselves. He does not. He loves us not because we are good, but because He is.